Smoking and Relationships
Since you’ve become pregnant, have you noticed any changes in your relationship with your partner around smoking? Can you relate to any of the following statements?
- Smoking was never an issue before, but now I’m expected to quit (even if my partner keeps smoking!).
- As long as I can keep reducing, we get along better. If I slip, the argument is bigger than ever before.
- Both of us have decided to reduce, and we can talk about it without pressuring each other. We’re finding other things to do together instead of smoking.
What are TRIPs? Read the Couples and Smoking booklet to find out more.
Women Speak out About Their Partner’s Smoking
“Whenever I used to tell him not to smoke he would like get pissed off, he’ll tell me not to tell him not to smoke. And now like so many times we just sit and talk about our child and the bad effects on our baby. So now we’ve been talking about it and talking about quitting and making a smoke free environment for our kids and for everyone else. So now whenever I tell him not to smoke he’s not frustrated, he’ll take it, he’ll say okay, I’ll do it, I’ll do it.”
Have you had a similar experience? Tell us about it!
Men Speaking About Being Smoking Fathers
“I have patches with me but I don’t use them, I just cut off little pieces in case I need them… I am finding the baby kind of replaces the patch. That’s how powerful having the baby is.”
In other words, when Dads are with baby, they will smoke less!
Using the Patch While Pregnant
- Pregnant women who smoke 5 cigarettes or fewer per day should use behavioural support, and not NRT, to help them quit.
- Pregnant women with a moderate or high level of addiction may use NRT under the supervision of their physician.
- A combination of cognitive-behavioural therapy and counselling with NRT is the most effective
Bottorff, J., et al. (2006). Men’s constructions of smoking in the context of women’s tobacco reduction during pregnancy and postpartum. Social Science & Medicine 62, 3096–3108
Osadchy et al. (2009). Nicotine replacement therapy during pregnancy: Recommended or not recommended? Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Aug 31(8):744-747